Gospel let the husband cleave to his wife. And he will cleave to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. Physical intimacy is the command of the Lord and His blessing

And the Lord God created a wife from a rib taken from a man, and brought her to the man. And the man said: Behold, this is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She will be be called wife, for she was taken from her husband. Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife; and they will be one flesh. (Gen.2:22-24)

Who will find a virtuous wife? its price is higher than pearls; The heart of her husband is confident in her, and he will not be left without profit; she rewards him with good, not evil, all the days of her life.

He produces wool and flax, and willingly works with his hands.

She, like merchant ships, gets her bread from afar.

She gets up while it is still night and distributes food in her house and food to her maids.

She thinks about a field and acquires it; from the fruit of his hands he plants a vineyard.

He girds his loins with strength and strengthens his muscles.

She feels that her occupation is good, and her lamp does not go out at night.

She stretches out her hands to the spinning wheel, and her fingers take hold of the spindle.

She opens her hand to the poor, and gives her hand to the needy.

She is not afraid of cold for her family, because her whole family is dressed in double clothing.

She makes her own carpets; Fine linen and purple are her clothing.

Her husband is known at the gate when he sits with the elders of the land.

She makes bedspreads and sells them, and delivers belts to the Phoenician merchants.

Strength and beauty are her clothes, and she looks cheerfully at the future.

She opens her lips with wisdom, and gentle instruction is on her tongue.

She oversees the management of her house and does not eat the bread of idleness.

The children get up and please her, - the husband, and praises her: “There were many virtuous wives, but you surpassed them all.

Loveliness is deceptive and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears the Lord is worthy of praise.

Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her deeds glorify her at the gates!” (Proverbs 31:10-31)

My son! listen to my wisdom and incline your ear to my understanding, so that you may maintain prudence and your mouth may retain knowledge.

For the mouth of another man's wife drips honey, and her speech is sweeter than oil; but the consequences from it are bitter, like wormwood, sharp, like a two-edged sword; her feet descend to death, her feet reach to the underworld.

If you wanted to comprehend the path of her life, then her ways are fickle, and you will not recognize them.

So, children, listen to me and do not turn away from the words of my mouth.

And you will groan later, when your flesh and your body are exhausted, and you will say: “Why did I hate instruction, and my heart despised reproof, and I did not listen to the voice of my teachers, I did not incline my ear to my teachers: I almost fell I am into all kinds of evil among the congregation and society!”

Drink the water from your cistern and the water that flows from your well.

Let not your springs overflow in the streets, nor let your streams of water over the squares; let them belong to you alone, and not to strangers with you.

May your source be blessed; and take comfort in the wife of your youth, the dear doe and the beautiful brimstone: let her breasts intoxicate you at all times, delight in her love constantly.

And why do you, my son, get carried away by strangers and embrace someone else’s breasts?

For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and He measures all his paths.

The lawless one is caught by his own iniquities, and he is kept in the bonds of his sin: he dies without instruction, and is lost from the multitude of his madness. (Proverbs 5:1-23)

To protect you from a worthless woman, from the flattering tongue of a stranger.

Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her captivate you with her eyelashes; because because of a prodigal wife they become poor to a piece of bread, but a married wife catches a dear soul.

Can anyone take fire into his bosom so that his dress does not burn?

Can anyone walk on burning coals without having their feet burned?

The same thing happens to the one who goes in to his neighbor’s wife: whoever touches her will not be left without guilt.

A thief is not allowed to go free if he steals to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; but, being caught, he will pay sevenfold, giving up all the property of his house.

Whoever commits adultery with a woman has no understanding; he who does this destroys his soul: he will find beatings and shame, and his dishonor will not be erased, because jealousy is the rage of a husband, and he will not spare on the day of vengeance, will not accept any ransom and will not be satisfied, no matter how many gifts you multiply . (Proverbs 6:24-35)

My son! keep my words and hide my commandments with you.

Keep my commandments and live, and my teaching is like the pupil of your eyes.

Tie them on your fingers, write them on the tablet of your heart.

Say to wisdom: “You are my sister!” and call reason your relatives, so that they protect you from another’s wife, from a stranger who softens her words.

So, one day I looked out the window of my house, through my bars, and saw among the inexperienced people, I noticed among the young people a foolish young man, crossing the square near its corner and walking along the road to her house, at dusk in the evening of the day, in the darkness of the night and in darkness.

And behold, a woman approached him, dressed as a harlot, with a treacherous heart, noisy and unbridled; her feet do not live in her house: now on the street, now in the squares, and she builds forts at every corner.

She grabbed him, kissed him, and with a shameless face said to him: “I have a peace offering: today I have fulfilled my vows; That’s why I came out to meet you to find you, and - I found you; I made my bed with carpets, with colorful Egyptian fabrics; I scented my bedroom with myrrh, aloe and cinnamon; come in, we will revel in tenderness until the morning, we will enjoy love, because my husband is not at home: he has gone on a long journey; he took a purse of silver with him; will come home by the day of the full moon.”

She captivated him with many kind words, and with the softness of her lips took possession of him.

He immediately followed her, like an ox going to the slaughter, and like a deer going to the shot, until the arrow pierced his liver; like a bird throws itself into a snare, and does not know that it is to its destruction.

So, children, listen to me and pay attention to the words of my mouth.

Let not your heart turn aside from her path, do not wander in her paths, for she has cast down many wounded, and many mighty have been slain by her: her house is the way to the underworld, descending into the inner dwellings of death. (Proverbs 7:1-27)

A good wife gains fame, and the hardworking gain wealth. (Proverbs 11:16)

Like a gold ring in a pig's nose, a woman is beautiful and reckless. (Proverbs 11:22)

A virtuous wife is a crown for her husband; and shameful is like rot in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4)

Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your vain life, and whom God has given you under the sun for all your vain days; because this is your portion in life and in your labors, as you labor under the sun. (Eccl.9:9)

Likewise, you, wives, obey your husbands, so that those of them who do not obey the word will be won without a word by the lives of their wives when they see your pure, God-fearing lives.

Let your adornment be not the outward braiding of your hair, not gold jewelry or finery in clothing, but the innermost person of the heart in the incorruptible [beauty] of a meek and silent spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.

Thus, once upon a time, holy women who trusted in God adorned themselves, obeying their husbands.

So Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him master. You are her children if you do good and are not embarrassed by any fear.

Likewise, you, husbands, treat your wives prudently, as with the weakest vessel, showing them honor, as joint heirs of the grace of life, so that there is no hindrance in your prayers.

Finally, be all of the same mind, compassionate, brotherly, merciful, friendly, humble in wisdom; Do not repay evil for evil or insult for insult; on the contrary, bless, knowing that you are called to this in order to inherit the blessing.

For whoever loves life and wants to see good days, keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech; turn away from evil and do good; seek peace and strive for it, because the eyes of the Lord [are turned] to the righteous and His ears to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil (to destroy them from the earth). And who will harm you if you are zealous for good?

But even if you suffer for the truth, then you are blessed; but do not be afraid of their fear and do not be embarrassed. (1 Peter 3:1-14)

The husband show his wife due favor; likewise is a wife to her husband. The wife has no power over her body, but the husband does; Likewise, the husband has no power over his body, but the wife does. (1 Cor. 7:3,4)

But to those who have entered into marriage, I command not I, but the Lord: the wife should not divorce her husband, but if she divorces, she must remain single, or be reconciled with her husband, and the husband should not leave [his] wife. To the rest I say, not the Lord: if a brother has an unbelieving wife, and she agrees to live with him, then he should not leave her; and a wife who has an unbelieving husband, and he agrees to live with her, should not leave him. For an unbelieving husband is sanctified by a believing wife, and an unbelieving wife is sanctified by a believing husband. Otherwise your children would have been unclean, but now they are holy. If an unbeliever [wants] to get a divorce, let him get a divorce; brother or sister in such [cases] are not related; The Lord has called us to peace. Why do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or do you, husband, why do you know if you won’t save your wife? Just each act as God has determined for him, and each as the Lord has called. This is what I command in all churches. (1 Cor. 7:10-17)

I also want you to know that the head of every husband is Christ, the head of every wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. (1 Cor. 11:3)

So a husband should not cover his head, because he is the image and glory of God; and the wife is the glory of the husband. For man is not from wife, but woman is from man; and man was not created for wife, but woman for man. Therefore, the wife should have on her head [the sign of] power [over] [her], for the Angels. However, neither is a husband without a wife, nor a wife without a husband, in the Lord. For as the wife is from the husband, so is the husband through the wife; still - from God. (1 Cor. 11:7-12)

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Children, be obedient to your parents in everything, for this is pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, so that they do not lose heart. (Col.3:18-21)

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the Church, and He is the Savior of the body. But just as the Church submits to Christ, so do wives to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her, in order to sanctify her, cleansing her with the washing of water through the word; that he might present it to himself as a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that she might be holy and without blemish. Thus should husbands love their wives as their own bodies: he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one has ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and warms it, just as the Lord does the Church, because we are members of His body, from His flesh and from His bones.

What does the Bible say about marriage?

The divine origin of marriage is indicated in the book of Genesis. “And the man said, Behold, this is bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she will be called woman, for she was taken from man. Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:23-24). God created man and then woman from his bone. As recorded, God “took one of his ribs” (Genesis 2:21-22). The Hebrew word used here literally means "side of a person."

Thus, Eve was taken from Adam's side and she must be next to him. “And the man named the names of all the livestock, and the birds of the air, and all the beasts of the field; but man was not found to have a helper like him” (Genesis 2:20). In the original, the words “a helper like him” are one word. This word is "ezer", which comes from the primary root word meaning to surround, protect, help or helper. That is, it implies help, assistance or support. Eve was created to be next to Adam as his “half” and to help him. A man and woman in marriage become one flesh. The New Testament adds a warning to this “unity”: “So they are one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate” (Matthew 19:6).

There are several letters of the Apostle Paul that speak to the basic principles of the Bible's position on marriage and how born-again believers should operate within their marital relationship. We find one such text in 1 Corinthians chapter 7, and another in Ephesians 5:22-33. Together, these texts provide the believer with biblical principles that can be used to form the basis of a marriage relationship that is pleasing to God.

The text in Ephesians is especially powerful in its treatment of successful biblical marriage. “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church, and he is the Savior of the body” (Ephesians 5:22-23). “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her” (5:25). “So husbands should love their wives as their own bodies: he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one has ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and warms it, just as the Lord does the Church” (5:28-29). “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (5:31).

When these principles are chosen by husband and wife in harmony with their relationship as born-again believers, that is biblical marriage. This is not a one-sided relationship, but one that is consistent with the idea of ​​Christ as the head of husband and wife together. Thus, the biblical idea of ​​marriage is the unity of two individuals, which reflects the unity of Christ with His Church.

Summary.

Matt. 19:5.6 “And he said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh.” Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate.”

Under the word " will leave “This does not mean leaving parents without care and attention, but creating a new family separate from them. The Lord directly condemned the Pharisees, who, under the crafty pretext of caring for the temple, violated God’s commandment to honor parents and help them (Mark 7:11-13).

About the meaning of words the two will become one flesh saint Gregory the Theologian writes: " Those bound by the bonds of marriage replace each other's legs, arms, and hearing. Marriage makes even a weak person twice as strong and brings great joy. Common concerns ease grief. Common joys are more delightful for them. For like-minded spouses, wealth is more pleasant, and poverty is easier to bear. They have only one drink from a domestic source, from which strangers do not partake. While they are one flesh, they also have one soul.". Saint John Chrysostom calls a Christian family small church. He says that husband and wife are like hands and eyes. When your hands hurt, your eyes cry. When your eyes cry, your hands wipe away the tears.

From this you can understand the meaning of the warning: What God has joined together, let no man put asunder . The breakdown of a family is the tearing of a living organism into parts (father, mother, children). Therefore, from ancient times, in all nations, marriage was considered a sacred matter and its rupture was condemned.

However, there have always been and remain circumstances under which divorce is permitted. In particular, the Russian Orthodox Church cites the following reasons.

« In 1918, the Local Council of the Russian Church, in its definition of the reasons for the dissolution of a marriage union sanctified by the Church, recognized as such, in addition to adultery and the entry of one of the parties into a new marriage, also the following:

Unnatural vices;

Inability to cohabitate in marriage, occurring before marriage or resulting from intentional self-mutilation;

Leprosy or syphilis;

Long unknown absence;

Condemnation to punishment coupled with deprivation of all rights of the estate;

Encroachment on the life or health of the spouse or children [and, of course, not only the spouse, but also the spouse];

Snitching or pimping;

Taking advantage of a spouse's indecencies;

Incurable serious mental illness;

Malicious abandonment of one spouse by another. Currently, this list of grounds for divorce is supplemented by such reasons as AIDS, medically certified chronic alcoholism or drug addiction, and the wife committing an abortion with her husband’s disagreement.» .

But all these grounds for divorce cannot be considered as requirements. They are only a prerequisite for divorce, but the final decision always remains with the person himself.

Gregory the Theologian, St. Creations. M., 2007. T. 2. P. 50.

Fundamentals of the social concept of the Russian Orthodox Church. M. 2001. S. 75-76.

What does the Bible say about the role of the husband in marriage?

Loving your wife

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her, in order to sanctify her, cleansing her with the washing of water through the word; that he might present it to himself as a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that she might be holy and without blemish. Thus should husbands love their wives as their own bodies: he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one has ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and warms it, just as the Lord does the Church, because we are members of His body, from His flesh and from His bones. Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This mystery is great; I speak in relation to Christ and the Church. So let each of you love his wife as himself; and let the wife be afraid of her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-33)

This is the most important commandment regarding the role of the husband in marriage and its implementation leads to the replenishment of the people around him. God expects from every man the same love for his wife as Christ had for the Church and as someone loves his own body. When a man shows such love for his wife, through this the love that Jesus Christ has for His Church will be visible to all people.

Admire your wife

And the man said, Behold, this is bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she will be called woman, for she was taken from man. (Genesis 2:23)

The expression “here” shows admiration for someone whom one has long desired and expected. Every man should have this attitude towards his wife all the days of their marriage.

Leave your parents

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother... (Genesis 2:24)

God does not mean by this that children should neglect their parents or not take care of them. But from the moment of marriage, every man should realize that the relationship with his wife is a priority and does not involve parents controlling or manipulating this relationship. Wise parents will never do this, but not all parents are so wise. I know one man who, after marriage, left his mother the opportunity to control them, which came to the point that his mother kept their money and decided what clothes to buy for his wife. Their marriage did not last long, and he became very unhappy. Of course, I warned him more than once about such an end if he did not leave his mother and cleave to his wife. At the same time, every man should realize that when he gets married, he must support his family and take care of his parents and his wife's parents. And if parents are ready to support a young family financially for a certain period of time, take it as a blessing, and not as something for granted.

Cling to your wife

The original concept of this commandment concerns intimate relationships, which must be initiated by a man. Let no one think that it is sinful or wrong for a wife to take the initiative in intimate relationships. Only every man should know that God wants him to take the initiative, both in relation to creation with his family and in other aspects of life. When difficult situations arise in the family, a man is expected to be the one who seeks a solution, who takes the right attitude and acts in resolving this difficult situation.

Be open with your wife

And they were both naked, Adam and his wife, and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:25)

The expression “they were both naked” includes more than lack of clothing. The man and women were open with each other, having a frank relationship in which no one hides anything from the other and is not afraid to speak his mind to the other for fear of being judged.

To be the head of the wife

I also want you to know that the head of every husband is Christ, the head of every wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. (1 Cor. 11:3)

Christ, being our Head, cares for us, protects and sacrifices Himself for us. In the same way, every man is required to be the head of his wife, and not just the one who gives orders and authoritatively imposes his will. May God help every husband to behave with his wife the way Jesus Christ behaves with us.

Honoring your wife

Likewise, you, husbands, treat your wives prudently, as with the weakest vessel, showing them honor, as joint heirs of the grace of life, so that there is no hindrance in your prayers. (1 Pet. 3:7)

May God help all husbands to fulfill their God-given role and thus present to the world the character of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Be responsible

In Eden, Adam was responsible to God, who commanded: “Only from the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, God said, do not eat it or touch it, lest you die.”, responsibility for his wife Eva. But they disobeyed God and ate.

The whole world is still experiencing the consequences of irresponsibility!

Nowadays, another function is added to a man -

Defend your homeland, your home and your wife

Quite often before the holiday, people ask a logical question - what should a Defender of the Fatherland be like? What qualities should prevail in him? We, after all, trust him with our lives, even now, in a seemingly peaceful time?

It is difficult to carry out an examination here - everyone will have their own opinion in this case, because we associate too many positive qualities with the image of a true Defender of the Motherland. Naturally, one of the main qualities should be love for one’s Motherland, for one’s Fatherland; if this noble feeling is absent, then results that inspire additional respect will not be expected. Many will remain of the opinion that one of the most important qualities should be the professionalism of the defender of the Motherland. It’s hard to argue with this, because if we take, for example, military service, then competent mastery of modern technology is, in many ways, a guarantee of peace and security, since few people can threaten a country with a well-trained and well-armed army.

We should not forget that defending the Motherland is not only, and perhaps not so much, the defense of its external borders, because there are also enough internal threats to the life of every person, even in ordinary, everyday life. Here I would especially like to emphasize the threat of terrorism, from which it is civilians, women, and not military personnel who suffer the most. Any citizen of a country who cares about its future can become a defender against terrorism, because all you have to do is be a little more attentive to others and many terrorist acts can be prevented.

So it turns out that each of us can protect our neighbor, and therefore our Motherland as a whole, from danger! Let the positive qualities of the Defender of the Fatherland be present in each of our husbands, men for the benefit of serving the Motherland. Then they will take on the image of God with His character. Remember, we talked about the ark, where the tablets with the Ten Commandments of God lie, in:

In Gath, after the ark was sent, the hand of the Lord was on the city - a very great horror, and the Lord struck the inhabitants of the city, from small to large, and growths appeared on them.

11 ... there was mortal terror throughout the whole city; the hand of God was very heavy upon them (on the Philistines, who took the ark for themselves, so that the Power might be with them). 12 And those who did not die were smitten with growths, so that the cry of the city went up to heaven. (1 Samuel 5:11-12)

Look, mortal horror is not just stress, fear, but horror, and further growths. This situation is similar to the accident at the Sayano-Shushenskaya hydroelectric power station.

Such was God's protection.

According to Jewish tradition, a husband must: 1. Support his wife. 2. Feed. 3. Dress. 4. Buy jewelry - a wife should decorate herself for her husband. Happy holiday, dear men! Happy Defender of the Fatherland!

Be courageous, responsible, brave! And we will love you!

With sincere wishes of happiness, good luck and new achievements, a team of women.